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Strange & Wonderful People: The Dietz

June 28, 2010

The Dietz, my Mr. Wonderful: Won’t you get in my box?

Since it is our anniversary week, I thought this might be the time to explain how The Dietz got to be so wonderful – it really is pretty strange.

Proverbs 21:1

Before I ever got married I knew exactly what a Perfect, Godly Husband looked like, sounded like, and acted like. How I got to be such an expert is uncertain because I had never actually met such a specimen. But, I knew that I knew all that was necessary about the Perfect, Godly Husband and how it make one. And it’s a good thing, too, because for some strange reason everyone else had neglected to tell the man that I married exactly how he could change to fit into my Perfect, Godly Husband box. Fortunately this would not be a great problem because I was sure that, with a little tinkering, a little tweaking, I would soon have him remodeled and snugly in the PGH box.

(I know that you are out there shaking your head and rolling your eyes. Don’t think that I don’t see you.)

You can imagine my shock when my husband, after just a few days, revealed to me that he considered my tinkering and tweaking not only unwelcome, but unnecessary! At this point, we need to fast forward ahead several years because the next part got ugly. For example sake, I will give you one little snap shot which involved the morning reading of Family Devotions, which of course should come from The Daily Bread, because that is what my dad had always recommended to people. When I made the sweet suggestion (for the ninth time) that The Dietz could fulfill his PGH duties by coming back to the breakfast table to read the required devotional with me (while hymns played in the background), his very plain words were: “Becky, I will NEVER do that.” And he never did.

Imagine that. My PGH box was so beautiful – and The Dietz wouldn’t get into it. And that covered more ground than just the matter of morning devotions … at the kitchen table … with gingham curtains floating in the morning breeze. There were other times when my box didn’t have the final say. I know – I had the same shocked look as you do at this moment.

I wish I had known my friend Lisa then. Her advice to brides-to-be goes something like this: Don’t be surprised when it turns out that God has given you a husband that is fallible and flawed – that’s all that’s available.  It would have eased my way to have her help with that – and she would have told me what to do with that whole PGH box, too.

But, I didn’t have that wisdom tucked inside me at that point. It took many shocked moments before I started to get the message that the “Remodel The Dietz Project” was not under my job description. God was going to take care of that. Somewhere along the line I encountered Proverbs 21:1 (The king’s heart is in the hand of the Lord; He directs it like a watercourse wherever He pleases.) and I began to realize that my husband’s heart was also in God’s hand – and God had the only transformational plan that would work. God was on a mission to form His character inside of my husband. God was on the job – I could take a break.

And what a wonderful gift He has given me: the joy of living with Jim while God does His work. Only God could turn Jim’s heart so that it held such an enduring love for someone who needed God’s transformational work so much herself. What a wonderful thing God has given us – 35 years of laughter, adventure, (cover the eyes of the children) passion, and seeking His ways.

Here he is in a picture from our wedding day. Why I fell in love with The Dietz would be obvious, yes?

See what I mean?!?!?!

And if you know him now, you know why it is so easy for me to stay in love with him!

 Thank you, Lord, for getting rid of my box!

8 Comments leave one →
  1. Beth permalink
    June 28, 2010 3:11 am

    Your dad let you marry a teenager? The Dietz looks 16 in that picture. Are you sure it’s your wedding day and not prom? Phew…

    • June 28, 2010 9:11 am

      The real miracle is that after living with me for 35 years, he manages to look younger than 90! 🙂

  2. Kate permalink
    June 30, 2010 11:26 am

    Wait… you mean we can’t change them? After 35 years, not even a little bit?? Oh well, but its a joyful reassurance that at least Someone is on the job, working it out for both of us, in His way, to fulfill His plan. You story reminds me that my constant desire to get my own Mr. Wonderful to see things my way seems very small. Congratulations on 35 years! We miss you guys.

    • July 4, 2010 12:11 am

      So good to touch base with you, Kate Tell your Mr. Wonderful that sharing your wedding day is still a sweet memory for us! (Sorry for the delayed reply. We were away for a week to celebrate that 35 year mark! And it was sweeeeeet!) PS – we miss you!

  3. July 6, 2010 12:09 am

    Great testimony. Of course, while the testimony is encouraging, I can’t tell you how much I personally appreciate your including the picture!



    PS – hope to get with you guys when we make our pilgrimage to Florida.

    PSS – Consider writing a book. You have a wonderful way with words. You also have a great title: The PGH Box

    • July 6, 2010 9:02 am

      Dave – you have a wonderful way with words yourself – powerful words of encouragement! Let us know what day is good for you and my PGH will heat up the grill!
      PS – I had to give up 75,000 wife points in order to post the picture!

  4. Carol Hansen permalink
    July 7, 2010 4:51 pm

    Becky…your blog is quickly becoming a favorite spot of mine…I enjoy your comes from your heart to mine..thanks.

    Please share more “wedding day photos”…I would love to view them.


    • July 8, 2010 5:19 pm

      I’m so glad that we have this way to connect as we “journey homeward.” Thank you for your encouraging words!
      About the wedding day photos: I have to get permission from The Dietz – he’s nervous about the increased levels of fan mail that those pictures might produce. 🙂

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